Cognitive restructuring
'Cognition' is a word used to denote a thought or belief, and 'restructuring' involves challenging a cognition by looking at the evidence for or against it. The basic idea behind cognitive restructuring is that thoughts themselves are not facts; you need to consider whether the thoughts you are having are true and to consider whether there are any other ways to thinking about a particular situation. At first this can be a real challenge: we often believe what we think and don't question our own thoughts. However, often our thinking is biased, and with perfectionism it can be biased towards thinking too negatively and harshly about yourself.
Adding to your pie
When seeking to weaken the link between your judgement of yourself as a person and your achievements, the aim is to base your self-worth on as many domains as possible in your life.
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So far you have identified the areas of your life which are particularly salient to your self-worth, called 'hot spots', which take up the larger slices of your pie. In order to add more variety to your pie chart, you need to identify some of the 'cold spots', or factors which tend to be overlooked, but can still meaningfully contribute to your value.
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These might include:
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Areas of your life which are not linked with achievement
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Activities or hobbies you engage in simply because you enjoy them
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Traits you possess, but you do not consider 'impressive' or wouldn't appear on your CV